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5 Proven Ways to Maximize Your Dating Game

As you know, the best way to get the dating life you want is to optimize your strategy as much as you can based on your lifestyle and personality. But just because you're being efficient and optimal doesn't mean you shouldn't also be exhausting as many funnels as you can to meet chicks and other cool dudes.

This was inspired by one of my students, Jeff. Jeff is in his mid 20s and he's a solid likable guy who's got his life together and is fun to be around. The problem is that he's not getting nearly the amount of dates a guy in his shoes should be getting. I have reason to believe that this is because he's not exhausting his resources enough.

In a perfect world if you wanted to maximize your exposure you should be using these avenues, in this order of relevance:

1. Social Circle.

The honest truth is that if your social circle sucks, it's a reflection of you. Either you aren't that fun, cool, interesting or valuable to be around.

2. Daygame.

This is the easiest, cheapest and most efficient way to meet girls. It takes almost no time and you grow as a person every time you approach. If you suck at this, it's because you haven't done it enough and you're scared. Face your fear, or sit around and get old and die with regrets :)

3. Social Events.

Go to any environment where people are expected to be social, like festivals, bars, clubs, happy hours, or classes. If you're doing poorly in these situations then just like Social Circle you aren't that fun, cool, interesting or valuable to be around, OR you are too scared to talk to randoms and you need to approach more to get over your fear.

4. Hosting Sites.

An awesome way to meet people is to host them in your city. Airbnb for your house, Turo for your car, ShowAround if you want to give tours and Couchsurfing if you can't Airbnb. DogVacay if you have a dog or want to make extra money watching them. They make good wingmen too. These will also generate cash so you get paid to be social.

5. Dating Sites.

You should have profiles on all of the relevant sites, especially the ones where the probability of you finding your soul mate is quite high. Tinder, Bumble, Happn are obvious apps, but you should also be on Match, OkCupid and Plenty of Fish.

If you're older really want a relationship you can use eHarmony. If you're religious use a niche site like JDate or Christian Mingle. Seeking Arrangements if you like sugar babies, models and girls who want to travel and have some money in the bank. And lastly, Lifestyle Lounge and SDC if you're into group sex.I guarantee that one site will be a lot more fruitful to you than others, so it's important you get multiple profiles out there and measure which site gets the most responses. Otherwise you may be wasting your time on a site that doesn't fit you best.

Profile Tips:

The pictures hold the key to whether a girl is going to read the rest of your profile. While women like to go off on a laundry list of qualities that include "sense of humor" and "kindness to animals," they are almost as shallow as men when it comes to online dating. They sit back and watch the dozens of responses that come in and take their pick of the guys who look the best.If you're not a great looking dude then make sure you have some pictures that show your other qualities that women find attractive:

  • Travel

  • Social Proof (having a picture or two with hot girls, but make sure it doesn't look like you're trying too hard to show them off)

  • Lifestyle (partying in exclusive places)

Make sure you're swiping and sending messages. My favorite line to use in America on any app where you have to match with someone is "So does this mean we're exclusive?" followed by the Tinder Marriage Roleplay (which we discuss in the Community). If she doesn't think it's funny, she's probably not worth talking to. If you're outside the U.S., she might not understand the humor.Be cocky and funny in your profile to give off the vibe that you're not taking online dating too seriously. Women want guys who other women want. You need to have the mindset of a guy who is already successful. Successful guys don't take online dating seriously because they meet women offline.

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