Girlfriend Requirements - Does She Have These 51 Qualities?
A member of our community asked:
“Can we see you list of qualities / requirements for a girlfriend? I feel like because I don't have this list I don't have a minimum standard. Your post yesterday about 5/6s not being a part of your life is something I want to change about myself, although I find with a lot of alcohol anything goes. Not sure how much I care about this but it's maybe damaging long term especially in a small city when chicks find out your banging less hot girls.”
Moderator Answer:
Appearance:
Silky skin (preferably dark)
Height doesn't matter
Shiny hair
Beautiful thin fingers
Natural Deep gaze (big eyes are a huge plus)
Small nose
Beautiful slender ankles
Maintained proportions
No tattoos (explicit)
Natural elegance
Interior:
Kindness
Empathy
Determination
Independent with a strong core
Moderate healthy ambition and desire to achieve success in one’s endeavors (at the same time, not the extreme of “walking over one’s head”)
Ability to find and make compromises
Moderation and down to earth
Having brakes and understanding when to stop
Sincerity
Honesty
Sense of humor (especially dark humor)
Tolerance for my “rudeness and tactlessness”
Friendly and sociable
Love to the animals
Justice
Tenderness
Curiosity
Quick-wittedness
Optimism and constant good spirits (love of life)
The ability to apologize for your mistakes
Active life position and high level of energy and initiative
Systematicity but also spontaneity
Logic and prudence
Ability to sincerely display and experience childlike emotions / happiness
High attention to detail
Skills:
Constant thirst for new knowledge and experiences
Erudition, broad outlook, high IQ level
A good education
English language
Having an interesting circle of friends/acquaintances
No IQOS and cigarettes
Aesthetics
Hobby:
Versatility (I want to try everything)
Movies
Love of travel
Tennis, golf, skiing, sailing or another high brow sport
Wine
Photography, video shooting and insta
Interior design and architecture
Passion and passion for own business
Interest in politics, economics, technological development
Red Flags For Trashy/Village Look To Avoid:
Eyelash Extensions
Hair extensions
Curly hair
Arrows (eyes) – make up
Eyebrow tattoo
Constant presence of AirPods in the ears
Fake branded clothing with flashy slogans
Rudeness to the service staff and to the people around
Lip sync to songs and self-admiration on Instagram
Not speaking proper native language
Long flashy / scratchy fake nails(fucking manicure)
Swearing excessively
Cigarettes and IQOS
Chronic need to put a hookah in your mouth
Burnt hair/amber/highlighted
Tattoos
Provocative bright clothes
Pumped lips
Makeup foundation on the beach
Heels on the beach
Not knowing multiplication table
Leopard print
Smoky hoarse voice
When heavy dishes are ordered for breakfast (Pasta, meat, etc.)
Loud mock screaming, scratching during sex
Round or oversized implants
You guys are welcome to use this list as a template, adjust it to your needs and then discuss it with girls on dates... and give them a matching score.... from my experience makes a great subject to talk about, and def creates value for you as person not just a penis who has mastered English and found a BDSM test lol. I need the person to be on the same page as me, thats the idea at least (I'm perfectionist / idealist). If someone doesnt have same attributes, we will just piss each other off after initial "romance" period (for me thats few dates at the most).
It will never be a 100% match obviously...
And even if you find, then you have to also fit her "list" which can be tricky. But in the end thats the goal, without a goal you just become complacent. Just like with any other aspect of life (career, business, material attributes, retirement, location).
I do put myself in the places of abundance where I can set up my own criteria and search for whats important for me. I am not saying you should have my list, but everyone should have "theirs".
In terms of solo vs. couple... the society puts a lot of pressure on you, over a certain age, especially in US / Western Europe to be in some sort of relationships. People without one are labeled as losers etc. In my opinion relationshis are to exist if they change your life for the better, and if you are more happier with your partner then without him / her. But of course it also takes a lot of will power and strenght to pursue your ultimate dream. Most people appease, give up, give in to pressure etc. Fortunately I've developed resistance and self sufficiency in every aspect of life, most people will never achieve that. As your properly noted, they live by "intertia."
Also a lot of people as they get older (30+) develop a need for companionship. Someone to talk to, desire to feel loved and needed, etc. Usually its stupid fucking blab of old people about non important non sense that carries no informational value and just creates illusion of "normalicy". (Food, weather, well being, dogs, cats, neighboors) So thats why they get partners, lovers etc... who may have the same needs, or who needs something from them (usually higher standard of living, money, travel, shopping)
Thus for me the "solo" path is the preferred way of existing in general, with everything else being a bonus. But this quality is indeed rare and requires lots of work to build the confidence and ressilience to external pressure.
And also along wiht my list of course when someone does fit my long term goals, doesnt mean I cant have good time with them, drinking wine, share some laughs, go out to dinner, do some light dating, some occasional banging... as long as you are in the place of abundance and thats what you want, then you can combine the two. But in terms of more sustainable relationship, what you were touching upon its a little different scenario.
